Children and teens who have spent time in foster or residential care, an international orphanage, or moving between relatives’ homes have had no say in the matter. They didn’t choose to leave their birth parents. It wasn’t their decision to move into the home of a stranger.
They didn’t ask for abuse or neglect. Just like adults during the shelter-in-place quarantine of 2020, children feel out of control when all choices are made for them.
Kids who have been harmed by abuse and neglect live in a
state of fear. This can look like
“bad” behavior when it is just survival instinct.