The Holiday season is here! These times can be especially challenging for children and teens with hard histories. Listen in as Alejandra shares 3 tips to help us navigate the holidays.
Getting Ready for the Holidays
Hi, this is Alejandra with Chosen. I’m here today to talk about the holidays, and whether you’re already in full holiday mode or feeling overwhelmed by the busyness of it, this season can bring up a lot of emotions, not just for us, but also for our kiddos. How we approach the holiday seasons is often shaped by our own childhood experiences, but for children and teens entering our homes, through either foster care or adoption, this can be a challenging time.
This time of the year can be very different. So to help make the holiday season a little bit smoother for your family, here are three tips that we’d like to share.
Tip #1: Understanding Your Child’s History
Understand your child’s history by taking the time to learn really what those memories are or why they may be removed from their family around Christmas. Did something significant happen during this season? Understanding their past experiences will help you recognize when a challenging behavior may be tied to a difficult memory. You can gather this information by asking case managers, reviewing documents, and taking time to talk to your child about what those childhood memories mean.
Tip #2: Inclusive Planning
It’s very easy to get caught up creating picture perfect holidays. Please don’t forget to ask your child what they enjoy about the season. Maybe traditions from their previous foster placement or biological home that maybe you can incorporate. Involving them in planning and asking about their favorite parts of the holiday will bridge the gap between different family cultures and make them feel seen and valued.
Tip #3: Lead with Compassion
For kiddos who have been removed from their families, the holidays can be especially tough. Being mindful of their trauma and approaching this season with compassion. Remembering the holidays aren’t just about festivities, they’re an opportunity to nurture connections and provide healing for Children who really do need it the most.
So, as we head into the holiday season, remember this time of the year is about so much more than picture perfect decorations or even the most festive of traditions. It really is about creating a space where every child feels seen, understood, and loved by taking the time to learn about their history, include them in planning and leading with compassion.
You’re giving them a gift far more meaningful than any present under the tree. You’re giving them a sense of belonging and connection. And that’s what the holidays are truly all about. Happy holidays.
